This week’s pain question
This weeks questions comes from Amy. Who asks, “When a man professes his love to you and then completely ends the relationship by email, is it lack of courage? Another woman? His own fear of intimacy/relationship ? or?”
The Bad Ass Reply
There is good news and some bad news. I will start with the bad news first. I don’t know if it was courage, or another woman, or something like that… but ultimately it wasn’t the right relationship for you – even if it felt really great in the beginning. He might have been a terrific guy for the time being, but clearly not for the long term.
Ultimately, you want a guy who will tell you what’s going on. So, you don’t have to worry about a sudden break up, something that seems weird and out of the blue. You want someone who is going to communicate, so that together as a couple you can work things out and be honest with each other. That’s the down side.
The good side is you are now available to find the right person. So it may feel like starting over, and there may be some baggage being carried over into your next relationship (don’t worry you can fix this), but the good news is that you now have the opportunity to find someone who is into you just as you are. Someone who is going to care for you, with whom you can have a great relationship.
A Break Up Email?
On a personal level, a break up email, text or other form of distanced goodbye letter is as disrespectful as it comes. I know it sucks, but good riddance.