This is Devin again and we are once again talking about love and relationships. We are talking about spiritual solution to love’s problems. And we are taking about staying together and leading a good life.
So, welcome! This weeks question comes to us from Kate who asks, “How can I encourage my husband to bring more love into love making? She goes onto write that they have a great sex life. They love each other a lot. They have a couple of kids. Unfortunately, the act itself is not as connected as she would like.
Kate, congratulations on the long term relationship and the wonderful family. From what I can read it sounds like he is a great husband. So many blessings to that.
In terms of the better connection to the lovemaking, I highly recommend that you, not during – at some point before or after – when there is a possibility for emotional volatility and potential misunderstanding. Say, “Hey, look at me, talk to me, connect with me. Look at me in the eyes.” Make sure you do the same and get his attention and ask exactly what it is that you want.
I know it sounds really scary but it doesn’t have to be. I guarantee you that if you are really present with your partner, your partner is going to want to be present with you. There are going to try really hard – they may have stumbling blocks and it may take a little bit of practice but it’s totally worth it. Just totally do it! Definitely communicate that you want more of a connection.
If you don’t know what that is, then talk it through. He may not understand it. You may have a vision or a concept in the back of your head of what connective lovemaking looks like. If so, come up with a picture in your mind and share it with him, so he can see it with you, and perhaps follow along. I think you will then be closer to where you want to be during those special moments.
As some of you know we have a lot going on. We have some new classes coming up in the future. So, if you have not signed up yet, there is going to be a short video coming soon that is going to explain everything: how these classes are going to look, how they are going to be structured and hopefully, you are going to be part of it.
And yes, in a few days we will be making a fun announcement!! Look for the video in a few days AND Happy Holidays to you and yours!
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